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Is there a time when dressing trendy is not in the best interest of a plus size fashionista? If you would have asked me that question a few weeks ago I would have said there is always a place for trendy fashion. Considering for decades the clothing available to plus size women was drab and boring the break out of designers and merchants focusing on the plus size fashion world has been a breath of fresh air.

My recent trip to Washington, DC showed me that in certain environments trendy fashion, even for plus sizes, is not the order of the day.  You guys already know about my wife and how she loves blue, green, fuchsia, yellow, you name the color she wears it.  On our trip to the nation’s capital we were introduced to many back offices of high importance such as the Pentagon, Supreme Court, CIA, Senate, and the House of Representatives were these colors are considered out of bounds.

There were plenty of lovely large women in all of these places in positions from secretaries to clerks running the entire office.  There was one thing common among all of these ladies, plenty of muted colors.  The major color theme was grey followed by black, brown, and navy blue.  Pants suits were also scattered about as well as knee length pencil skirts and black tights.  Of five days in DC, the only color I saw outside of this spectrum was one red jacket worn by the Senior clerk of the Senate majority leader

Does this mean that color should not be allowed on larger ladies in the workplace?  Absolutely not.  What it illustrates is that even with all of the steps plus size fashion has taken to buck the trend and live on the edge when it comes to some work settings tradition still rules meaning that when it comes to building your workplace wardrobe there are a few things you should keep in stock.    To give you a head start Jones New York has 50% off sale on plus size apparel in classic styles and colors and 30% off on all dresses.

Items every wardrobe should include:

  1. Suit jacket (grey, black, brown, and navy)
  2. Skirt in the same colors
  3. Houndstooth – you can break things up without being totally boring
  4. Black tights (in this case no fish or fencenet stockings)

Even with the conservative look there is always room to show off your individual spirit with shoes and accessories.  I saw the gambit in this regard meaning that just because you are wearing traditional colors does not mean that you have to look like your about to attend a funeral. Keep the amount of accessories to a minimum but play up on color, theme, and style to show the true you in a sea of traditional palettes.

Really, you could say that dressing classically is something every woman should do regardless of size, but as the office becomes more casual classic looks actually standout making a statement that regardless of the setting you will not just be one of the unwashed masses.  Do you have any classic fashion tips for the office?  If so feel free to comment and share!


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In today’s economy, it’s no secret that job searching has become our number one past time.  Even those of us who have jobs are often looking around – just in case.  And this is especially true for younger members of the job market.  After all, who wants to hire a twenty-two year old college graduate to manage their business when there are as many as five women twice her age trying for the same job?

So what can a young woman do to find a great job or great promotion – or even be sure to keep the job she has?  One of the simplest answers is to invest in herself.  Yes, you can do this by going back to university to earn another degree or certification – or by adding a new skill set to your resume.  But a quick fix is simply to look the part you want to play.

While appearance maybe shouldn’t play a role in who gets chosen for what job, the old adage, “Dress for success,” is definitely one to keep in everyone’s pocket when 1 in 10 of us are out of work in this country.  So just how do we go about creating the kind of make over that will showcase our inner talents?

Tip Number One: Be sure that your wardrobe is appropriate for the place you work.  Corporate cultures can be very subtle, and it’s easy to be either too formal or too informal, especially when you’re new to the corporate world.  If your company practices casual Fridays, be sure to check out what the Human Resources definition of that is – even if you see colleagues dressed in jeans.  It’s quite likely that denim is simply unacceptable to your senior management, but they choose to turn a blind eye to their support staff or IT team.  But who do you think will be considered for promotion the next time around?  Likewise, don’t overdress on those days either.  You don’t want to seem stiff or appear to have a lack of team spirit.

Tip Number Two: Work with what you’ve got.  Very often our wardrobe is the easiest thing to fix.  You can literally take a monotone skirt and blouse and turn it into a vibrant plus size fashion statement with the addition of a bold pashmina, a wide stretch belt, or some terrific jewelry and a short bolero sweater or plus size cardigan.  Another great idea is to add some great looking (but appropriate) leather or denim to your look.  A great denim skirt with a tailored blouse, or a pair of tailored slacks with a waist-length blazer style leather jacket slung over your shoulders makes a great plus size fashion statement.

Tip Number Three: Perform some serious due diligence.  There’s nothing like some good old observation.  Spend a few days looking at what other plus size women are wearing – especially those who are further along on the career path you’d like to walk.  Invest in a few great magazines also – and these don’t necessarily have to be fashion magazines.  If you’re interested in becoming the CEO of a company, for instance, you might look closely at the plus size womens fashions in INC. or Business Week – or check out the online version of WE Magazine for Women.  If you’re interested in broadcasting, pay close attention to who’s wearing what in TV.  And you can definitely ask the women you admire where they shop!  You’ll be surprised at how many of them will offer up the name of a small boutique or a vintage shop full of treasures

Good Luck!

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It wasn’t until I needed an outdoor chair that I really realized that I was in need of a product just for me so I could feel relaxed and at comfort. Nothing spoils an evening in the backyard than the fear and humiliation of breaking a chair. Living XL has an amazing selection of products built for plus size people. On their website you’ll find:

portable walk stools

portable chairs with a 600lb capacity

wide girth rocking chairs

office chairs with a 1000lb capacity

toilet seats

robes and bath towels

high capacity scales

back scratchers

seat belt extenders

casual clothing for men and women

heavy duty step stools and more!

Living XL definitely has taken into account many aspects of a plus size person’s activities of daily living.

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I received a lot of emails asking me how to become a plus size model??? Since I can’t really email everyone, I thought it would be a better idea just to post it for all to see. There are some really important requirements to becoming a plus size model. There are a ton of agencies looking for plus size models.


Height Between 5′8″ and 6′0″
5′9″ is pretty much minimum for larger markets though Wilhelmina in NYC does represent a few girls who are 5′7″ and 5′8″.

Size 12, 14, 16
Sizes 10 and 18/20 are also used, but are not as common.

You may be a “plus size,” but you may have to be in shape if you model swim wear, lingerie or fitness gear.

You should be in proportion. Your bust, waist and hips should be about ten inches apart in size (i.e. 42-32-42) or very close. In addition, the shorter you are, the smaller your size should be. Someone who is 5′8″ would be expected to wear a smaller size (12/14) than a taller model. It is all about length and proportion.

Close Models UK
Ford Models 12+ Division
Giovanni Models
Dorothy Combs Models
Goddess Models
12+ Uk

I hope this information helps those looking forward to be gorgeous plus size models. Let me know if this information was helpful. GOOD LUCK!!!

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Ive just found Gok Wans new underwear range for Simply Yours and I absolutely love it! Ive always been the sort of girl to flaunt it rather than hide it and theres nothing better than some shape enhancing underwear to set me on the right track.

Even the styling on the promotion images gets me excited, I mean how hot do these girls look seriously. If this underwear makes me look even a quatre of how sexy these ladies look then I’ll be more than happy.

Loving how a slick of fushcia lipstick can turn a whole look around. When I was younger I used to over compensate for the lack of style in my wardrobe by using far too much make up and making my hair far too big. Now I’ve grown into my skin and have become so much happier I only need a slick of lipstick and feel ready to face the world.

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I officially heart curvy confidential, a website that many of you will be a fan of already. So I thought I’d add some fantastic advice from the site about shedding weight….

Ok everyone…lets drop that weight!! That’s right, let’s get rid of it once and for all.

If you know me or what I stand for…you may think that I have had a hit on my head, or a change of heart, or a lapse in all that I write and speak about.

Not true.

I actually mean it.  Lets all lose some weight!  Oh, it is probably not the “weight” that you may think.  I am talking about all of the self-doubt, the degrading thoughts within your head, and all of the other WEIGHT that you pile on yourself when talking about your body and its girth/weight/poundage/pooch/fat…or any other word that you could use to diminish all of the real beauty that you actually do possess.   I have been working with, coaching, counseling and teaching people (not only women either) about body issues and self-loathing a lot lately.    The topic is always so fascinating to me and continues to be.   What I am finding is that many of us pile on the “weight” of carrying around a bad attitude and it is HEAVY.

Self-speak is constantly occurring.   Our job is to re-program, if you will, our negative thoughts about what we look like.   Why not make the choice to drop the bad thinking and replace with thoughts of all that we actually are that is great and all of the wonderful qualities that we do possess.

So I am suggesting that you drop a few unnecessary pounds of criticism. And not just about yourself, of others as well.   Stop looking for the seeming flaws in yourself and point out to yourself all of the beauty of who you are.  And begin to notice the truth about the beauty in others too.

Confidence is the best accessory a person can put on, a wise and loving man once told me.   I loved that.   I still do.   I still remember it like it was yesterday and it was many years ago.     Look lovingly at your reflection rather than with a critical, judgmental eye.   You are PERFECT just the way you are.   Remember that.   So dress it up, sexify it, strut it, move and dance it, adore it…it being you!

With love, from a “weightless” woman.

Fabulous advice if I say so myself…

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